Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Who Suffers Most from Anthony Wiener's Indiscretion?

Surely, everyone knows by now what the indiscretion is. If you don't, yet you read this blog? We are honored.

Who has the congressman negatively affected the most? Do I smell a Top 10 list? Oh, yes I do. (Don't worry, in the end, this isn't a political post.)

10. The congressman himself. Let him suffer; he deserves it.

9. The ex-porn star who took it upon herself to make public statements with Gloria Allred nearby. She didn't welcome his messages and, woe is she, couldn't avoid them.

8. The Republicans who on Day 1 called for his resignation. Your shrillness was expected and unnecessary.

7. The Democrats who did not call for his resignation. Your silence endorses his behavior.

6. The American people who have to suffer through this circus and have their attention distracted from real issues. Together with Casey Anthony's trial, let's eat some cake, shall we?

5. Donors to Wiener's campaign spent their money as unwisely as Wiener's actions were.

4. Sheri Wiener, the unlucky candidate for Bellvue's Metro Council. Despite having no relation, the negative name recognition has resulted in her campaign signs being removed or damaged.

3. Anyone who has been subjected to other people using the ridiculous term "sext" and its various conjugations.

2. His wife who was travelling and attempting to do government business while overseas. "Surprise, honey, I'm adulterous in very disturbing ways."

1. There is one as yet unborn person set to grow up, attend school, and attempt to have a social life as a teen who will have a father who was busted for texting his genitalia to women other than his wife, his or her mother. Good luck, lil one. Stay sane.

See? Not a political post, but one that observes a real-life moral tale, that we as parents and someday-parents-to-be must view our contemplated actions through the prism of history and try to see how it will affect relationships far beyond our current situations and the people with whom we currently communicate on a regular basis. Especially when these actions occur online, a true permanent record can be created and filed away somewhere up in the cloud. In a way, it's ancient wisdom: what goes up, must come down. You put something questionable up in the cloud, beware of the rainstorm that will follow.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Toddlers, movie theatres, and the race to grow up

Cars 2 is coming out this month and even though my 3-year-old is obsessed with cars, trucks, buses, and anything with wheels (as well as the movie Cars), he will not be going to the movie theatre to see the sequel. I know, I know, that makes me a horrible mother, right? Here's the thing: movies come out on DVD before you can even blink an eye these days. Once I preview it, I am sure my son will be able to watch Lightning and Mater race through Japan just like all of the other kids his age. He has no idea the movie is coming out soon; all he knows is that there is a whole slew of new cars that Grammy will surely be spoiling him with over the next few months. And in his world, it doesn't get much better than that. :)

Movie theatres are loud, dark, and can be scary places for toddlers. The seats are funny in that they don't stay down unless enough weight is pressed on them. Kids are expected to sit quietly for two hours and watch as things zip from one side of the screen to the other at the speed of light. There is no chance for parents to explain what is happening to their children for fear of disrupting other viewers. Toddlers are, by nature, curious and ask questions. They are sponges soaking up the juices of life and it's a beautiful thing to watch. To make them sit down, shut up, and zone out to a screen for hours goes against all aspects of their being. Instead, they should be running through a park, playing in a sandbox, riding a tricycle, kicking a ball around, reading a book, or playing a board game. Yes, I know this makes me sound old-fashioned but what happened to good old childhood fun? Why are toddlers cooped in inside playing video games (intended for teenagers) and watching TV (intended for older children) all day long at 3 years old?? Where has childhood innocence gone???

"But he's going to be exposed to those video games and TV shows anyway. Why not be the one to introduce him?" - To that I respond that I am his mother. I am responsible for guiding him to become the best person he can be. Yes, he will find out about all of the inappropiate games, shows, etc out there but why does it have to be NOW?? He will find out that the world isn't always a safe place....should I just start beating up on him now? He will find out that people are cruel....should I just wreck his confidence now and get it over with? He will find out that the world isn't fair.....should I just take everything that's his and leave him empty now? In my opinion, there is a time to discover the injustice, the suffering, the pain, the brutality, and the "reality" of the world we live in. My son will find out soon enough. Too soon, in my opinion, but I can't shelter him forever. What I can do is provide a strong foundation for him so that when he is exposed to all of it, he doesn't crumble into pieces. And in the meantime, I can LET HIM BE A CHILD. There are so many things about this world that children do not need to know. Yet we rip their childhood right out from underneath them by forcing them to grow up long before they should. Certain shows are created for teenagers. Certain video games are created for teenagers. How does my 3-year-old have any business watching or playing them??? Let him have his Sesame Street and Candy Land. 90% of the shows geared for children are garbage anyway. They claim to be "educational" but what are they teaching him that I can't? Active learning surpasses passive learning anyday. He can learn more from a day at the playground counting rocks, sorting balls, clapping to the beat, and partaking in a game of tag than he could watching any show out there. It boils down to my wanting my child to be a regular kid doing regular kid activities. Save the movie theatre for when he's older and can appreciate and maybe even benefit from the experience. It will be a true treat, not something he's been doing since he learned to walk. For now, he's content to play in the sandbox out back with the new red, white, and green race car that Grammy bought him. I believe its name is Francesco.